10 Steps to Build Your New Life After Divorce
The end of a marriage is often a difficult time. You may be left feeling angry, hurt, and alone wondering how to overcome the challenges and have a new life after divorce. It’s important to realize that you are not alone and there are ways to recover faster from the pain and build a wonderful new life after divorce, one that can be so much better than you may be able to imagine initially. In fact, many people have gone through a divorce and come out the other side stronger and happier than before.
If you’ve been through a divorce after the initial shock wears off, it’s important to start thinking about what happens next.
In this article, Divorce Coach Renae Tate will share some steps you can take to start your new life after divorce and most importantly, make it one you can be proud of. Here are some tips to keep in mind:
1. Give yourself time to heal
The first step is to give yourself time to heal. This is not an easy process, and there is no set timeline. You may find that it takes months or even years to fully recover from divorce. In the meantime, it is important to be patient and kind with yourself. During this time you may also want to find ways to speed up the divorce recovery process through getting the support of a specialized Coach or Therapist to help you heal and recover faster from divorce.
2. Create a support system
One of the most important things you can do after a divorce is to create a strong support system. This can include family, friends, therapists, a coach or even a divorce support group for people who are going through a divorce. Having people you can rely on will make the healing process much easier and help keep the feelings of loneliness at bay.
3. Don’t dwell on the past
It is important to remember that the divorce is in the past and that you are now moving on to a new chapter in your life. It can be tempting to dwell on what went wrong in your marriage, but it is important to learn and grow from it and focus on the future. Getting stuck dwelling on what went wrong in your marriage will only hold you back, cause more problems in new relationships and stop you from achieving happiness in the future.
4. Set goals for yourself
After a divorce, it’s important to set some goals for yourself. These goals can be anything from finding a new job to getting in shape to taking a trip somewhere you’ve always wanted to go. Having something to strive for will help you stay motivated and focused on the future. Having something to focus on will help you let go of the past and move forward with your life. Specialized Divorce Coach, Renae Tate suggests creating a compelling vision for the future, knowing what you want for your new life, making it one that excites and motivates you, will help you overcome the challenges and be able to take your life to new levels of success, love and happiness after divorce.
5. Live your life for yourself
At this time you may find that you have more free time than you did when you were married. This is a great opportunity to do things that you enjoy and make time for yourself. Take up a new hobby, go on vacations, do some physical exercise and spend time with your friends and family. It’s a great time to remember your childhood passions and use this time to reconnect with yourself again. Renae says it’s also important to fill your life with positive things to feel fulfilled in positive ways rather than taking up self-destructive habits like drinking or social media addictions, that can cause you more pain, problems and heartache in the future. Focusing on your own happiness and filling your own cup up will help you create a more positive and fulfilling life after divorce.
6. Get rid of items that remind you of your ex-spouse
One of the best ways to move on from your divorce is to get rid of anything that reminds you of your ex-spouse. This can include clothes, jewelry, photos, etc. You may also want to get rid of your wedding photos. Getting rid of these things will reduce the emotional triggers that can slow down the healing process and help you start fresh, move forward and create your new life after divorce.
7. Lean on your friends and family for support
Your friends and family can be a great source of support during this difficult time. They can offer a listening ear, a shoulder to cry on, or even just a distraction from your current situation. Lean on them for help and return the favor when they need it. If you feel you are leaning on friends and family too much you can combine this with getting professional help.
8. Seek out professional help
If you find that you are struggling to cope with your divorce, you may want to seek out professional help. A personal divorce coaching program by a life coach can help you work through your emotions and give you guidance on how to move forward. If you feel like not going outside you can even find a life coach online or online divorce coaching courses for help.
9. Be positive
It is important to try and stay positive after a divorce. This can be difficult, but it is important to remember that things will get better. Surround yourself with positive people, do things you enjoy, exercise and stay focused on your future and keep working on building your new life after divorce and make it one you love.
10. Redecorate your home
After a divorce, you may want to redecorate your home to reflect who you are now. Choose colors and furniture that make you happy and create a space that is all your own. This can be a great way to start fresh and make your space feel more like yours.
These are just some of the things you can do to create a new life after divorce. Remember to take things one day at a time and be patient and kind with yourself. With time and effort, you will be able to create a happy and fulfilling life for yourself.
Divorce can be a difficult and emotionally charged experience. But by following these tips, you can start a new life after divorce that is happy, fulfilling and can be better than ever! You deserve to be happy and by getting the right support and steps in place, you can make it happen.
Renae Tate is a Certified Life Coach and Divorce Coach, NLP Practitioner and Psychotherapist*, that specialized in helping people heal faster after divorce and create their dream life and relationship after divorce. https://www.dreamlifeafterdivorce.com/ ph: +61 414295373 or renae@renaetate.com.au you can also book a free discovery call here to help you start building your new life after divorce.