Finding Your New Relationship After Divorce

After overcoming a divorce or separation, it’s natural to want to start the next phase of life including finding that special someone and a new relationship after divorce. When you’re ready to move on and find someone you can share your life with, this can be an exciting time. However, finding a new relationship and dating after divorce can also be daunting and it’s important to know how to navigate the process to avoid the pitfalls, further heartbreak and to make sure you get the lasting love you’re looking for.
If you’re ready for that new love and relationship after a divorce, here are some tips to help you find that special someone and attract the love and relationship you truly want and deserve.

Understand why you’re ready for a new relationship

Firstly, it’s important to understand why you’re wanting a new relationship. To start with it’s important to consider whether you’re ready to move on from the past and your ex and not just looking for someone to fill the void that was left by your ex-partner.
If you’re still holding onto the past and haven’t quite moved on or if you’re still healing from your divorce, it’s important to wait until you feel strong enough to navigate the process of finding new love because dating and finding a new relationship after divorce can be messy and it is easy to get hurt if you’re not ready.
However, if you feel you’re ready to move on and have a new relationship, then it’s time to get started!

Know what you want in your ideal partner and new relationship

The first step is to know what you want in your ideal partner and relationship. You need to figure out what you want and need in a relationship. Do you want someone that is similar to your ex-partner, or do you want someone different? What are the qualities you liked in your ex-partner and what things do you want to make sure you have in your new partner and relationship?
This is such an important step in the process of finding new love after divorce and will help you attract the right type of partner and relationship that will last the distance. If you don’t know what you want you could end up attracting the wrong type of partner or settling for less than what you truly want and this could end up leaving you back where you started!
Once you know what you want in your ideal partner and new relationship, now it’s time to start attracting it and get started on the dating process.

How to start dating again after a divorce

Dating after divorce can be daunting and the world of dating has changed so much since you may have last been single. Knowing how to navigate the dating process and avoid the potential pain and pitfalls on the way is important, so here are some ways to get started.
You can start by going out with your friends or joining some social groups such as meetup which will help you find people with similar interests. You could also join a class or go to social events. This is a great way to meet new people that share your interests. You will also get to know people in a more relaxed setting. Just remember to be safe and not share too much information with new people while you’re still getting to know them.
Online dating is also a great option to meet your new partner and start your new relationship after divorce. There are so many options of sites and people that you can meet online which opens up the possibilities and can be a great way to meet your new partner. However, knowing how to navigate the online dating process is important because there are many pitfalls if you don’t know how to approach this new world of dating. There are relationship and dating courses that can help you avoid the pitfalls, know how to navigate the process and ensure you get the real love you’re looking for.

Be honest about your divorce

When you start dating again, it’s ok to be honest about your divorce. Don’t lie or hide the fact that you are divorced as this will lead to issues with trust and only make things difficult down the road. In fact, being open and honest can be a good thing. It shows that you are willing to be open and vulnerable. It also shows that you are taking steps to move on.
It is better, to be honest and let people know what happened and also keep in mind not to belittle or complain about your ex as this can be a turn off for new partners. Take your time with dating and getting to know people. Don’t rush into a new relationship or into being physical too early as this can cause more problems and hurt for you down the track. This is a new and exciting time in your life, but you don’t want to rush into anything.

Be open to new relationships

It’s important to be open to new relationships. This does not mean that you have to date anyone that you meet, but you should be willing to give new relationships a chance without comparing people to your ex or what you’ve been used to in the past.
Remember to be yourself. Don’t try to be someone that you are not. You want the person you date to like you for who you are. Be honest and let your personality shine through.This will help you find the right person when you are finding a new relationship after divorce.

Be patient

When you are looking for a new relationship after divorce, it is important to be patient. If the relationship does not work out, don’t worry. There are plenty of other people out there that would be perfect for you. Just remember to be patient and take your time. Take your time and get to know the person before you make any decisions. This will help you avoid rushing into something that’s not right for you or getting hurt again.

Be Discerning

Opening your heart and yourself up to someone new has so many wonderful possibilities, but it’s important to lead with your head during this time and not just your heart. Be discerning when meeting people, check who they say they are, ask important questions up front to ensure your values and goals are similar. As the world of dating has changed so much since you may have last been single, it’s more important than ever to make sure you’re safe at all times during the process so keep an element of privacy and distance until you’re sure this person is who they say they are.

Enjoy the journey

When you are ready to start dating and having a new relationship again, remember to try and enjoy the journey. Enjoy getting to know new people and dating. It can be a lot of fun and you could meet some great people along the way. Use this as a time to sift and sort to find the right person. Take things slow and be patient with the process. Most importantly, have fun! You deserve it! If it’s not enjoyable then what’s the point and perhaps it’s not the right person for you.

Final words

When you’ve been through a separation or divorce, it may be hard to know when and where to start with dating and your new relationship. You may feel like you’re not quite ready, or that you are too damaged. However, it’s important to remember that you are not alone. Many people have gone through a divorce and have successfully started a new relationship after divorce. It may be difficult at times, but it’s definitely possible and it’s worth it.
Even if it’s challenging at times, you are sure to find the right person if you don’t give up and stay focused on the end result of what you truly want in your new relationship. If you are feeling a bit overwhelmed and want some help you can take a specialized course or get the help of a Coach to get your confidence and strategies to know how to get the love and relationship you’re looking for. Just remember to have fun along the way! Good luck!
Renae Tate is a Divorce and Life Coach that specializes in helping you Design Your Dream Relationship and teaches her secret 3-step process to remove the ‘love blocks’, help you get what you want in your ideal partner and know how to attract it, while avoiding the pain and pitfalls on the journey to lasting love.

You can find out more about Renae’s Design Your Dream Relationship Course to get the relationship and lasting love you deserve so you can start enjoying it sooner at www.dreamlifeafterdivorce.com or renae@renaetate.com.au / +61414295373